Accommodation

Life is about 5% of what we plan for and 95% of what we don’t. Life has a way of throwing undesirable events into our lives unexpectedly. Successfully living is about our ability to deal with the unexpected. We have to accommodate for these things. It is God who gives us the knowledge and strength to respond. If a person does not adapt but instead becomes bitter, they will lose their enjoyment and sense of purpose in life.

If a person suffers a traumatic event, they will often suffer intrusive and painful thoughts about the event until they can accommodate what happened. Through accommodation, they can make some meaning out of the meaningless event. Unfortunately, some people are never able to do this in the face of the tragedies of their lives. Even though the years pass, time brings no healing. Instead, they experience distress from their memories of those traumatic events. They blame others, they blame God, or even themselves, which brings anger and guilt. These intrusive memories work with a domino effect and trigger feelings of loss or shame.

The Bible gives us a wonderful picture of how God deals with traumatic events in our lives through the word "redemption." When God redeems us, he accommodates the meaningless events of our lives. God has the ultimate power to take whatever we give him and make something meaningful out of it. When Paul wrote to the Ephesians, he said this: “In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God’s grace” (Eph. 1:7).

Nowhere do we see the price of our redemption clearer than in the sufferings of Jesus. His suffering was colossal and incomparable, but it was to help us accommodate the meaningless transgressions of our lives. Jesus not only suffered for us, but also showed us how to suffer. He never lost control, never became resentful or vengeful of those who hurt him.

God is at work in those who are committed to Him and who trust Him. Paul wrote the Philippians these wise words: “Therefore, my dear friends, as you have always obeyed—not only in my presence, but now much more in my absence—continue to work out your salvation with fear and trembling, for it is God who works in you to will and to act to fulfill his good purpose” Philippians (2:12-13).

The belief that God is at work in my life gives me hope. It tells me I am not alone. It tells me that he is helping me to live in a way that fulfills His purpose in my life. It tells me that he is helping me cope with all the unexpected things that happen in life.

 

Author of Crianza Responsiva:

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